Conversation rules

Dialogue is a true art that needs to be learned. So it was in all the old times, and does not change to this day. Having mastered such a skill, a person discovers a lot of new doors, becoming a welcome interlocutor.

To comprehend the science of speech communication, it is important to master several basic steps.

• Listening skills. Far from everyone possesses it, for a person is inclined to really hear only his own voice. It is necessary to overcome and learn to pay all their attention to the interlocutor, as well as to the analysis of information received from him.
• Overcoming the fear of asking again. Often it happens that it does not come out the first time to make out a phrase. Do not be shy to clarify an incomprehensible word, as this will not only help avoid embarrassing situations, but also show that a person’s speech matters.
• Facial expressions. The “game” with eyebrows, smiles, nods - all this at a subconscious level speaks of interest in conversation.
• Pause. They are necessary during his own speech, not only to eliminate boring monotony, but also to give the other person the opportunity to assimilate information or insert some of his own remark.
• Politeness. Wanting to show yourself from the best side, showing education and literacy, we must not forget about politeness. Rudeness, obscene expressions and "words-parasites" should be excluded as much as possible, especially when dealing with an unfamiliar person.

Learning how to make small talk won't bother anyone. Even if the vis-a-vis is still not in a situation where you need to speak at a “high” level. This can happen at the most unexpected moment, and the ability to interest a representative of "high society" will benefit.

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1. Speech etiquette is very important here. In places where a particular culture reigns, communication at the everyday level is not allowed. Future interlocutors, as a rule, present themselves to each other, calling themselves by their full name and indicating some facts about themselves.
2. First name and patronymic are pronounced so that the interlocutors refer to each other during the conversation. Noticing that the person did not remember this immediately, you can gently remind him.
3. Words are only half of the image, actions are equally important. It is necessary to keep open, taking a relaxed position. It is not recommended to cross palms, scratch the nose and neck. All these gestures will tell the other person about squeezing and a small degree of candor.
4. The best topic for discussion is one of the facts about which it became known upon acquaintance. According to etiquette, something common will be suitable, as if both are interesting. It is worth being careful here - controversial issues can lead to a quarrel.

During a conversation with a stranger before a person should not raise too banal topics. It is important to try to carefully understand what interests the interlocutor pursues so that he himself can speak about them. Observation of the conversation, noting the speech turns, personal conclusions about the degree of knowledge and the number of interests - all this will help to understand the person and determine the topic for communication.

If you want to leave behind only positive emotions, you need to learn how to give pleasure to the whole conversational process. To do this, you should use a personal interesting story, somehow related to the chosen topic, telling it and familiarizing yourself with the prevailing opinion of the interlocutor.

Competent construction of sentences, beautiful formulations of one's own thoughts, smoothness and clarity of speech - without this, it is almost impossible to conduct a constructive, pleasant dialogue. Each of the aspects will contribute to improving the effectiveness of communication, for example, at work. Without these skills can not do if you organize and conduct events.

Being a good companion for strangers is not as difficult as it seems. You just need to remember a few rules:

• eye contact with a person during a conversation will show him the significance of the ongoing dialogue and interest in him;
• even one smile can give positive emotions and contribute to relaxation;
• maintaining the conversation: the dialogue needs to be continued for some time, even if the topic of conversation was uninteresting for some of the parties - you should not forget to be polite;
• an elevated tone is unlikely to lead to good impressions, but it is better not to speak in a “loud whisper” either;
• the use of a person's name in communication will positively affect him psychologically at a subconscious level;
• it is possible to interrupt the interlocutor during his speech only by chance, by no means on purpose, otherwise it will leave a negative mark;
• correctly express their own opinion only after the completion of a certain phrase vis-à-vis;
• it is recommended to get rid of the habit of showing off, if there is one, as soon as possible, because no one likes this trait of character;
• Everyone is entitled to their opinion when it does not turn into an insult.

It so happens that after a conversation with a specific person you feel uncomfortable. In order not to become one of these, just remember some things.

• The main thing is to be yourself, whatever the circumstances. You can not deny self worthy of respect.
• If the interlocutor directly asks for advice in any matter, do not answer the first phrase that came to mind. It is better to spend some time to think about the situation and decide whether there is an opportunity to provide assistance. If it is not there, let the person immediately know about it, because in that case he will only be grateful for the attention and sincerity shown.
• Constantly putting yourself above others, you will not be able to achieve anything good, even in reality having such superiority. It is much more pleasant to help those close and needy as much as they can, then the people themselves will reach out for you.
• There is nothing wrong with getting tired of dialogue, for example, with an annoying and unpleasant person. In this case, it is better to say so directly, so as not to be a hypocrite.

For information on how to make small talk, see the next video.