Exquisite manners and rules of decency

Every day we communicate with a huge number of people. In many ways, it depends on our behavior what impression we make. With respect for good manners, each person significantly increases the chances of building a favorable relationship with others. It is believed that the word "etiquette" originated in France, at the court of Louis XIV. During the royal receptions, guests were handed out cards on which the rules of conduct were written, and they were called labels.

Compliance with the rules of decency is a generally accepted norm in modern society, subject to the adequacy of the person. For example, we cannot leave the house in a negligee, otherwise we will face administrative punishment. The very definition of such a word as “etiquette” lies in the set of rules of conduct that are considered to be appropriate in this particular society.

Manners of a well-bred person are always refined and make him stand out against the background of other people who neglect these manners. Many are unaware of the fact that ignorance and unwillingness to follow the rules of etiquette is unprofitable in the first place by him, and this applies to different areas: the appearance, culture of speech, and the rules of behavior in general.

The aphorism of the ancient Greek philosopher Socrates says: "Speak for me to see you." This phrase expresses the whole essence of the importance of speech as a method of communication between people. While a person is silent, we cannot understand what he is, what his inner world is fraught with. Surely everyone is familiar with such a situation when, outwardly, a person is very attractive, his image is at the height, but as soon as we begin to communicate, we understand that this is just an outer shell that does not correspond to its essence.

Most pushes the use of profanity, inability to listen and hear, when a person often interrupts his companion, and even worse - Hamit or bold. Always and everywhere it will be perceived as disrespect and a bad scornful attitude.

That is why it is important to follow the principle that a beautiful person is beautiful in everything. Only in the aggregate of all factors, such as good manners, competent, correct speech and a neat appearance, will a person coexist harmoniously with other people in modern society.

Standards of behavior may vary, depending on where the person is located, what activity they are engaged in. For example, being in public transport, a man is obliged to give place to a woman, especially if she is pregnant or elderly. But for sure everyone at least once noticed for the unscrupulous representatives of the male half of humanity such a negative habit, how to pretend that he reads something with enthusiasm or fell asleep, just not to give way to a pregnant woman.

It becomes embarrassing for such a man, there is a feeling of annoyance. Fortunately, such are not all and gallant young people are also found. Special attention is paid to appearance. Appearance should always be neat, no matter where you are going to go. There is one general rule: everything that you put on public display must be in tidy condition - This is neat nails and hair, washed and ironed clothes, clean shoes.

Even if the financial capacity of a person is limited, and if the suit is on it from a commission store, the main thing is that it should be clean, not torn and fit. After all, to have a well-groomed and tidy look, you just need to take care of yourself sufficiently. and for this it is not at all necessary to be a millionaire or a rich man. Of course, in the presence of a material base, a much larger number of possibilities is revealed, but to the simple average person, basic personal care products and clothing are fully available.

Even if we take the marginal segments of the population (homeless people who drink from a disadvantaged environment), then there are also shelters and charitable organizations for them, which in every possible way try to provide at least some help and support to improve their quality of life.

Psychologists advise to always keep friendly when dealing with people around them.. In the process of speaking, it is better to avoid high intonations, you should say the words calmly, without haste, clearly and clearly expressing your thoughts, without interrupting your interlocutor.

Of great importance is a friendly attitude. The fact of its manifestation is a smile when greeting, but not done and stretched, but sincere and unconstrained. Even if a few minutes ago you had an unpleasant conversation with your boss or a dispute with your wife, you should not pour out your righteous indignation at the first seller in a store or neighbor on the landing.

Due to the regular observance of the rules of etiquette and good manners, a person forms the habit of behaving like this not only in official settings, at secular receptions, but also in everyday life. There is such a pattern: if it is a rule to keep your back straight, to avoid slouching, then military posture will become for the person an already integral part of the image, the main thing is to avoid excessive tension.

The first time will be difficult, especially if a person is used to slouching, but the more often you do this simple exercise, the faster the habit of keeping your posture will reach automaticity. Facial expressions and gestures are also of crucial aesthetic value. The whole image should be harmonious and stylish.

It is believed that people with good taste have a sense of style. The concept of “style” includes a set of harmoniously combined specific features of behavior and details of a person’s appearance, which favorably distinguish him from everyone. Such people are also called style icons.

For example, such a woman was great coco chanel - the progenitress of the same name of the world famous brand. She had a refined taste and refined aristocratic manners. Her taste preferences in the field of fashion were taken as a basis in the beauty industry, they are considered to be the reference to this day.

Each country has its own standards of behavior, specific national traditions and rules of decency. Religion and religion have a significant impact on their formation. In order to avoid unpleasant situations before traveling, it is recommended to study as much information as possible about the features of etiquette, patterns in the behavior of residents characteristic of a particular country. Consider some of them:

• England with its royal traditions, it is considered the country of aristocrats and the most developed in the sphere of etiquette, as evidenced by the image of an English gentleman with ideal aristocratic manners known all over the world. When talking, the optimal distance between the interlocutors is considered to be the length of the arm. To say compliments on people is to show bad taste, the British try to keep a low profile and somewhat conservative.

• Russia. During the reign of Ivan IV, the priest Sylvester wrote the Domostroy rulebook. The main idea was that the power in the family entirely belongs to the father. Later, Peter I was a preacher of European manners in Russia. Many of these rules have survived to the present day. Russian people are considered very hospitable, responsive and emotional. Some representatives of other nationalities consider Russians prone to excessive familiarity, and they, in turn, accuse those of excessive coldness.
• Japan. In this country, it is not customary to shake hands, people just bow to each other. The Japanese are avoiding the eye to eye, and silence is considered a sign of masculinity and strength. In conversation, the inhabitants of this country try to avoid the word “no”, for example, when answering the question of whether the Japanese want tea, he will answer that he already has enough.

• Spain. In this country, it is customary to be late for an appointment by an average of 15 minutes. If you are invited to breakfast, then you can agree in the event that the request is repeated three times, when they start to persuade you. If you agree to the first or second invitation, it will be considered bad form.
• Israel. When greeting here, even strangers are accustomed to ask certain on-call questions that need to be answered, but briefly, without going into excessive details and details. Ignoring the question, you can pass for a sullen and impolite person. In this country, a woman has no right to touch orthodox Jews, they can be easily distinguished from all other Israelis by their specific appearance.

In each country, regardless of its characteristics, it is important to behave with others delicately and with respect, and then in any society we will meet a benevolent response. The famous Spanish writer Miguel de Cervantes once surprisingly accurately said that nothing costs us so cheaply and is not valued so dearly as politeness.

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